Men Are Like Rubber Bands, Women Are Like Waves

John Gray in his Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus explains how Men and women are very different from one another.

Gray suggests that a man should hug his wife four times a day.

Surely sir. But first ask the deodorant and perfume companies to make their products cheaper and more effective.

To feel better Martians go to their 'caves' to solve problems alone. On the other side to feel better Venusians get together and openly talk about their problems. When a man is stressed he will withdraw into the cave of his mind and focus on solving a problem.

In this situation a women is not supposed to enter his cave. The cave man even practiced Cannibalism.

Women talk about problems to get close and not necessarily to get solutions.

Strange! !

In such situations a man is not supposed to provide solutions. Instead he had to listen just like a dumb ass.

We have another case. 'Men Are Like Rubber Bands'.

The writer explains that when a man loves a woman, periodically he needs to pull away before he can get closer. So when they pull away, they can stretch only so far before they come springing back. This cycle involves getting close, pulling away, and them getting close again. So a women should allow a man to expand fully. She should not try to prevent this pulling away.

Similarly women Are Like Waves

When a woman is feeling really good, she will reach a peak, but then suddenly her mood may change and her waves crashes down. After reaching the bottom suddenly her mood will shift and she will again feel good about herself. Automatically her wave begins to rise back. When a woman's wave rises she feels she has an abundance of love to give, but when it falls she feels her inner emptiness and needs to be filled up with love.

At this juncture telling a woman she shouldn't feel hurt is about the worst thing a man can say!!

So, in relationships, men pull back and then get close, while women rise and fall in their ability to love themselves and others.

Now, we have a very serious situation. When a wife is in her well and at the same time her Mr. Hubby is in his cave! So what happens when the wave and the rubber band occur around the same time?

Interference!

Everything depends on the extent to which the wave and the rubber band are in phase with respect to each other. If they are exactly in phase, they will add up alone. If they are exactly out of phase, they will cancel everywhere, producing no disturbance at all. Here, we are witnessing a fully constructive (destructive in real sense!) interference.

Gray explains 'A man's deepest fear is that he is not good enough or that he is incompetent'

Why doesn't Gray right away recounts that a man always thinks that he has got a small stubborn stuff with which he is unable to satisfy her?

The Martian and Venusians languages had the same words, but the way they were used gave different meanings. To fully express their feelings, women assume poetic license to use various superlatives, metaphors, and generalizations. Like…


Women: 'We never go out'
Men: 'That's not true. We went out last week'

Women: 'Everyone ignores me'
Men: 'I'm sure some people notice you'

Women: 'No one listens to me anymore'
Men: 'But I am listening to you right now'.

Stupid Martians. They must not have read Shakespeare's plays.

Men pride themselves on being experts, especially when it comes to fixing mechanical things, getting places, or solving problems. But what about doing a honors in English. For Martians, honors in English should be made compulsory so that they can understand the Shakespearean strained Venusians language.

'It is very difficult for a man to differentiate between empathy and sympathy. He hates to be pitied'.

Hmmm… sounds interesting!

Ladies read carefully! The secret of empowering a man is never to try to change him or improve him. The four magic words to support a man are 'It's not your fault'. When a women is expressing her upset feelings she can support a man by pausing occasionally to encourage him by saying 'I really appreciate your listening and if this sounds as he I'm saying it's your fault, that's not what I mean. It's not your fault'.

Just see the change. He'll linger around you waving his tail like a tamed dog.

There are so many differences between men and women.

Men argue for the right to be free while women argue for the right to be upset. Men want space while women want understanding. She needs caring and he needs trust. She needs understanding and he needs acceptance. She needs respect and he needs appreciation. She needs devotion and he needs admiration. She needs validation and he needs approval. She needs reassurance and he needs encouragement.

If these guys have so many differences then why don't they just leave? And go back to their respective planets? At least the animals will live in peace. They can't. If they do so who will buy John Gray's 'Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus'? Of course bloggers like me who copy great writers and in return castigate their work.